I believe in the law of attraction. I think that what we put out into
the world, we get back. How we spend our time and who we are spending
it with is crucial. I am more aware of it now more than ever because
of being a parent. The energy I have around me will influence my son so I only want positive energy around us.
Every single little thing I do is teaching my son a lesson first hand. Even when I don’t realize it.
The best way for me to teach my son to be selective with his time and
his heart is going to be taught to him by my example.
Run, run, as fast as you can
The Bitching Mom
The Jealous Mom
The Competing/comparing/Keeping Up With Mom
The Mom who makes you feel Guilty
I want mom friends who speak, act, and live positively about their
own families and other families. I want mom friends who are happy, confident, and kind.
I am inspired by moms who are just happy, loving, and helpful. I want
to inspire other moms with the same thing.
The energy you put out into the world is huge. Mostly for yourself and
If you’re unhappy, chances are you’ve brought this upon yourself but
the good news is, you can fix it very easily. I totally check myself
when I notice myself slipping into a negative place. And thank God, I
have some honest family members who tell me when I am as well. We are
human. It happens.
If there’s people in your life who bring out a negative and/or mean
side of you, get them out of your life. If you have somehow become
this person and know that it’s not your true self, have no fear, you
can change this. Dust yourself off and get back to a place
happiness and positivity.
The Bitching Mom
The mom who complains about mom like things are the moms who every
time you talk to them and say, “Hi, How are you?”…they respond with
how tired they are, how they have no time for anything, tell you how
they had so much to do. And guess what, they always have more to do
than you did, it was always harder for them than it was for you, and
you just have no idea. They usually say things like, “Must be nice”
when you tell them something positive (because they haven’t had
anything positive in their life in so long), “I remember when I used
to be able to do that” (because they’re busier than the POTUS
therefore they haven’t been able to even watch a TV show in years), or
“Those days are over”…because duh, they’re like older than your
The Fix: Hang around with moms who are POSITIVE. The mom that you see
and say, How are you? And they respond with, I’m good… I slept so
good last night and I feel so great today! or Everything is alright
and alright is good, no complaints here! The mom who usually has
something happy, funny, or nice to share with you and others. The
people who even when they could actually complain, choose not to.
Become the person who brings the positivity, the happiness, the
laughter, and the kindness. When you’re around people that aren’t
bringing you down, you will naturally become a person who’s more
positive and happy. You will bring more laughter and kindess back to
your family and others around you.
“You’re only as good as the company you keep”
The Jealous Mom
The jealous moms are dangerous because jealousy is a very ugly thing
that projects a lot of bad energy on you. When you bring these people
into your life thinking that they’re your friends it’s like the “wolf
in sheeps clothing”. This is not your friend, this is a frenemy. The
friend who doesn’t compliment you, that diminish your achievements or
gives you the wrong advice or opinion just to sabotage you bettering
your life is toxic. These jealous people around you are usually ones
to give backhanded compliments like, “You’re actually smarter than you
look”, “You really are nicer than people say you are”, “You look
beautiful! Like a different person”. BYE, girlfriend.
The mom friend who diminishes your achievements or strengths does this
because they’d rather choke on glass than tell you how wonderful you
are. People diminish your achievements with things like, “Well, that’s
easy to do when you only have one kid” or “Well, don’t get ahead of
yourself yet…you are at the easy part still. Wait til….” When this
happens to me, I just smile and nod but really I’m thinking…wait and
see, hater. They can’t tell you how impressed you are because they’re
too insecure or jealous of a person.
They will give you the wrong advice or opinion intentionally. When
these people offer you advice or an opinion, take it with a grain of
salt and move on. You already know that they’re not giving you the
right opinion or advice so don’t even ask them. In fact, I’d do the
opposite of what they say.
The Fix: Hang around with confident women who are just totally secure
with who they are. You don’t have to have friends who only live like
you do. But how ever they do choose to live, they are secure with it.
These people will never be jealous of you because they are so happy
with who they are themselves. They are your friends who walk in your
door and make you feel good, they make the space that you guys are in
feel good, they compliment you, they tell you the truth, they want to
see you be your best.
Be the person who spreads kindness to the people around you. Give genuine compliments. Share contacts. Help someone achieve a goal. Be the shiny bright light. There’s so much darkness in the world, what good is it if you’re the only light in the world? Light everyone up around you and make a positive bright world around your family again.
“Some people only hate you because of how much other people love you”
Your kid crawled before your neighbor’s kid did? Wow.
Your kid started talking at 11 months but your friends kid didn’t
start talking til 16 months? Cool.
The kid down the street just got a new bike so now you have to get
your kid a new bike that’s better? You’re the coolest mom ever.
Your kids are the only kids at school who have been to Disney World
every single year? Oh my goodness!
Their husband got them a new car so you must get a new car too, only
yours is going to be fully loaded and the newest model. Great!Blah, Blah, Blah.
This mom who competes, compares, and keeps up with the Jones’s is NOT
your problem. But you also don’t need to be around it. Not only are
you annoyed hearing her but everyone else is too. Most of these people
are people are filling a void. They’re missing something in their personal life and trying to buy their happiness. They have to prove something to the people around them with status and labels. They’re living an empty life. These people are only hurting themselves because they will drive themselves crazy
trying to compete with everyone, compare everything, and keep up with everyone and everything.
Delete them from your life. You don’t need someone who’s in a constant competition with you or comparing your lives every time you talk. You don’t need to show them something you’re proud of only to turn around and see they had to get it too but maybe an even better version to try and make yours look less.
The Fix: Expand your circle, meet new people, go new places. There are
women you can surround yourself with who do not want to compete with
you, they don’t want to compare everything, and they don’t need to
keep up with you. Be around when who are authentic and know what they
want, like, have, and don’t need to change that for anyone. These
people will then bring an authentic friendship to your life.
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